So you've reached that time in your life when suddenly you have looked up and around you are most of your friends all loved up in relationships...
Its not that it bothers you because actually you're pretty content as you are. I mean I for one absolutely love that I can do whatever I want to do, see who I want to see, get drunk and dance around like a nutter with no one to answer to in the morning. Its absolutely liberating and I love my independence... its more for me that thought deep down that thinks shit, should I be like everyone else now? Finding someone and 'dating'?!
I don't know about you but I'm afraid I am that one in the group who can sadly relate most to a mix of Bridget Jones and Jess from New Girl (please go and watch this program if you haven't - its absolutely brilliant). It's not that I don't try to pull off sexy, mysterious and desirable ... I just can't. Perhaps its the perils of having absolutely gorgeous friends but yes ladies, I am that girl who spills her drink over the hot guy or stacks it whilst trying my hardest to look composed or gets a text from said hot guy asking for the number of one of my pals ... its safe to say that in the big wide world of dating I wouldn't know the first thing about anything.
So for all you single ladies (and gents) out there who may just be feeling a bit like me and wondering what could possibly be worse then feeling lonely and like a third wheel, here are some of the best bits of single life:
You have more money to spend on yourself.
Without another half you instantly free yourself from the pressure of expensive Birthday and Christmas presents and frequent dinners, take aways and those anniversaries and valentines celebrations that you are never sure what to do for. Instead your hard earned money belongs to you and you can spend it however you wish. Save it, spend it it doesn't matter!
Without another half you instantly free yourself from the pressure of expensive Birthday and Christmas presents and frequent dinners, take aways and those anniversaries and valentines celebrations that you are never sure what to do for. Instead your hard earned money belongs to you and you can spend it however you wish. Save it, spend it it doesn't matter!
You have more time.
Relationships are hard work. When you aren't seeing each other you are texting or messaging or calling from the moment you wake up until the moment you go to sleep - it can be a 24 hour thing! As a singleton you only have time for yourself; this opens up more time for your friends, family and most importantly yourself! You can spend your free evenings dressing up for a night out with your friends or equally you can crash out on the sofa with a movie and no one need know about it. Time is such a precious thing so having more of it can only be a blessing right?
Relationships are hard work. When you aren't seeing each other you are texting or messaging or calling from the moment you wake up until the moment you go to sleep - it can be a 24 hour thing! As a singleton you only have time for yourself; this opens up more time for your friends, family and most importantly yourself! You can spend your free evenings dressing up for a night out with your friends or equally you can crash out on the sofa with a movie and no one need know about it. Time is such a precious thing so having more of it can only be a blessing right?
You have an all new appreciation for your friends.
Since being single I have definitely seen so much more of my friends and in turn my friendships are much stronger. When you don't have a partner you have to depend on your friends more; you open up to them, you tell them about your day and share your worries with them. This not only forms a stronger bond between you all but it also makes you realise how great your friends are and what a support they are to you. On the other hand you can also be there for them and give them your undivided attention so it definitely works both ways.
You have nothing tying you down.
With only yourself to worry about you have nothing restricting you to a certain place or plan. It is so liberating when you think that you can just pack up everything and go and it would only expand your horizons and bring you new friends and stories to tell. I am just applying for a job and I could be placed in one of seven regions in the country and I am so excited, albeit a little scared, but the thought of moving to a new place and getting to know it is really great. I am also in the middle of planning to travel for a few months next year and again I can plan this trip and it doesn't matter how long I go for or what I do when I am there; its completely on my terms and again, its a really liberating feeling.
You have nothing tying you down.
With only yourself to worry about you have nothing restricting you to a certain place or plan. It is so liberating when you think that you can just pack up everything and go and it would only expand your horizons and bring you new friends and stories to tell. I am just applying for a job and I could be placed in one of seven regions in the country and I am so excited, albeit a little scared, but the thought of moving to a new place and getting to know it is really great. I am also in the middle of planning to travel for a few months next year and again I can plan this trip and it doesn't matter how long I go for or what I do when I am there; its completely on my terms and again, its a really liberating feeling.
You can work on your self-esteem.
Being in a relationship commits you to one person and quite rightly so; I am definitely not one for condoning any sort of cheating, or messing around as I believe once you are with someone you owe them your loyalty and respect. However as a single person you can go out and chat to whoever you want to, you can flirt and laugh and take advantage of the odd free drink - its absolutely fine! Embrace the world of dating, go out for dinners and relish the attention; as long as you are being safe and careful this is your time to be noticed or to notice other people, so its time to look good, feel good and get out there!
You don't have to worry so much about the finer details.
(Sorry guys but this one is more for the ladies) Girls I am sure you will all agree with me, but single life allows us to 'relax' a little in the cosmetics department. We don't have to worry all the time about what we look like, when we crash out in our joggers and sweats with no make up on and greasy hair, we can! Your legs don't need to be clean shaven every day of the week and you don't have to worry about morning breath or plucking your eyebrows on those days when you really can't be bothered. Of course when we are out on the town or there is a special occasion we can then go all out, dress to impress and relish in the fact that tomorrow no one is going to see you scoffing a dominoes in your pjs!
You can rediscover yourself.
More than anything, being single is a time for you to get to know and love you. Sometimes for people who have been in bad relationships a lot of damage has been done to your self esteem and you may not even be aware of it. If a relationship is not particularly healthy you may look back at it and realise that you were constantly put down, or laughed at or controlled and this may have really had an impact on how you feel about yourself long after the relationship has ended. Being single is a time to draw a line under that person you used to be and reinvent yourself. You can like whatever music you want to, you can buy that outfit you always wanted but didn't buy because you knew your other half would hate it. Start new hobbies, take on challenges and surround yourself with people who make you feel good - this really is a time to learn about you and what makes you tick and once you are back in a relationship you may never get this precious time again.
Being in a relationship commits you to one person and quite rightly so; I am definitely not one for condoning any sort of cheating, or messing around as I believe once you are with someone you owe them your loyalty and respect. However as a single person you can go out and chat to whoever you want to, you can flirt and laugh and take advantage of the odd free drink - its absolutely fine! Embrace the world of dating, go out for dinners and relish the attention; as long as you are being safe and careful this is your time to be noticed or to notice other people, so its time to look good, feel good and get out there!
You don't have to worry so much about the finer details.
(Sorry guys but this one is more for the ladies) Girls I am sure you will all agree with me, but single life allows us to 'relax' a little in the cosmetics department. We don't have to worry all the time about what we look like, when we crash out in our joggers and sweats with no make up on and greasy hair, we can! Your legs don't need to be clean shaven every day of the week and you don't have to worry about morning breath or plucking your eyebrows on those days when you really can't be bothered. Of course when we are out on the town or there is a special occasion we can then go all out, dress to impress and relish in the fact that tomorrow no one is going to see you scoffing a dominoes in your pjs!
You can rediscover yourself.
More than anything, being single is a time for you to get to know and love you. Sometimes for people who have been in bad relationships a lot of damage has been done to your self esteem and you may not even be aware of it. If a relationship is not particularly healthy you may look back at it and realise that you were constantly put down, or laughed at or controlled and this may have really had an impact on how you feel about yourself long after the relationship has ended. Being single is a time to draw a line under that person you used to be and reinvent yourself. You can like whatever music you want to, you can buy that outfit you always wanted but didn't buy because you knew your other half would hate it. Start new hobbies, take on challenges and surround yourself with people who make you feel good - this really is a time to learn about you and what makes you tick and once you are back in a relationship you may never get this precious time again.
Relationships are amazing things; there is no doubt that being in a happy and healthy relationship is a gift and its the best feeling. I have many gorgeous friends who are in great relationships and wouldn't look back and I am by no means saying that being in a relationship is a negative thing - far from it! What I am saying is people who are single and maybe feeling a bit lost can forget the positives of being single and there are so many of those too.
I am a firm believer in love and fate and somewhere out there is someone for everyone, you may have even met them already or know them already (weird!) but right now it just isn't your time. Hang on in there and get embracing your freedom because one day you might wish you had it back.
So for all you singletons out there, take life by the balls and go and have some fun - you're gorgeous so don't stop smiling (you never know who might be paying you attention!) x
I am a firm believer in love and fate and somewhere out there is someone for everyone, you may have even met them already or know them already (weird!) but right now it just isn't your time. Hang on in there and get embracing your freedom because one day you might wish you had it back.
So for all you singletons out there, take life by the balls and go and have some fun - you're gorgeous so don't stop smiling (you never know who might be paying you attention!) x
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